Thoughts: On who's the one?

To recently widowed friend, who started dating

I am sorry dear friend, but you talk about these women
as if they are still profiles on your laptop screen:
flat, 2Dimensional, with no scent, no timbre
or like you’re describing one of your newest synthetics:
excited but academic

Or maybe, that's just how I hear it,,,, from afar...
& to think, I was worrying about you being lonely!

How is this? as a hint, remez:
**Think C h e m i s t r y**
!~!simultaneous equations!~!
%*^#! explosive mixtures%*^#!
>>>>exothermic reactions<<<< style="font-style: italic;">do you keep track of them all?
remember their names?
electronically,
with the camera option?

And, what ever happened to one at a time?
not , One-A-Day, like vitamins
Or, is it still too soon, to be thinking about marital bliss ?
or not,
already past the 1-year yartzeit...

So, in light of your confusion,
glad to see that you're not rushing
to get hitched
so fast,
just yet

And, How close are your 'kids' to seeking out a mate?
Alas, these young yidden are in no hurry
to tie the knot
Yeah, pity

OK: Keep It Sweet & Simple:
get back to basics, KISS:
Go to "My Reasons for Marrying."
"Why I wedded in the first place."
Why I chose my screen-name,
SoulMateSought!!!!

Here's an idea: a bioassay:
Let me count the ways:

~ Who is the woman in your dreams?
The one you have in your mind’s eye,
while you're still lolling in bed,
in the morning,
purring to yourself,
warm, between the sheeets, thinking
about awakening up,
together, with some sweet words
passing from your lips
to hers

~ Who do you want to grow old with?
I've heard that kissing improves with age
like other organics, good wine and cheese

~ Who do you see smiling, over your shoulder,
when you look in the mirror
And you flash back a smile
in return?

~ Who sparks your imagination,
not just your repartee,
beyond clever conversation over crudites
& toasted bread?

~ Who inspires you to carry on?
prods you on to greatness? gets you up
helps you along,
when you're tired or down ?

~ Who comes to mind
when you make that breakthrough?
contractual agreement signed,
distribution deal finalized,
or one of your chemical discoveries!

And when, you want to celebrate,
do you think of her favorite restaurant
, maybe where you had your first date?
Maybe leave earlier from work,
to stop and buy that flowering plant,
the one you know she'd love to place in the garden corner,
because she told you that it 'needs' a littler color
& the water
from that leaking gutter,
shouldn't go to waste.

~ Who do you picture Erev Shabbat,
bringing in the challote?

~ Who do you see thoughtfully
imbibing your d'var torah,
betweeen songs,
and singing?

~ Who is she who learns and teaches?
who volunteers,
shares to encourage,
to sooth,
not to self-aggrandize.

Think man! Not trivial!
Not about teeth that need caps,
not about orthodonture,
laser eye surgery,
thinning hair and hairy hats!

It ain’t about that.
but it could be
about the books she's read
about the causes she supports,
the work
that she does
because
she
loves
to

Or, here's a good one, for your
own psych profile:
when she's fretting over a new wrinkle,
will you cock your head and think 'Old'
or will you cock your head the other way,
glad to remember and recall
the good times and your shared smiles?
& Thank G()d for the time together,
and tell her!
and give her a
real kiss
lingering
looking in her eyes
grateful.

‘Sess out how she likes your kids:
Does she kvell about their accomplishments?
Is sad with them when they play hard,
but the game was lost, nonetheless?
and same goes
for you, too.

not every day will be a winner,
'though there's always reason
to thank G()d
and each other.

Or is her first thought, sniffing around
about redecorating the house?
Where will you vacation?
or, that gorgeous bracelet
she saw at Harry Winston?

Full Stop.
Deep breath.
Who, is the next, Love of your Life,
together ?

The one you want to nestle
into the chambers
of your heart,
not only in the nook of your arm
but to inveigle into every corner in your home
into every room in your house.

The one you want to see, when you turn into the drive,
standing, between lintel and jambs ,
glad you've both arrived
at about the same time
looking forward to
your evening
alone
with one
another

Yes, hard to face
after, all this,
After your own dear,
sweet marriage
the death of such a loving wife.
You know
that I
know too,
that
it was so
for me
as well

I admit it,
now, in light of day
Billy, my First Love,
who died so young,
even harder now,
though so many
years have gone,
still feeling that pain;

and that 2nd problematic love,
now legally ended,
Thank G()d
for at least that

HERE'S ANOTHER IDEA: Make a free running list,
with the rhythm of your heart,
the light of your soul,
as in
, , , wondrous feeling, deep caring, covenantal love,
husband&wife, true best friends, snugglers
confidantes, student<~>teacher<~>student
learning together,
hunched over instructions
or a manual written in China
breaking new ground,
lovers, impassioned, comforters,
teamplayers,
trusting, fully wholly open and shut,
loving her aroma, drawing in her scent
crying together, daubing each others
eyelids, gently, removing spectacles
and ending up laughing or sobbing
in each other's arms,
enjoying her thought from all angles
and straight on:
not only husband&wife, but true best friends,
impassioned together
about the concerns that matter
global warming, Jews in poverty,
food distribution, nuclear fusion
confused with fission.

from all angles
and straight on:
not only husband-&-wife, but true best friends,
confidantes, always learning, from each other's love,
lovers, (com)passionate,
holding together,
trusting the other,
fully,
from all angles
and straight on:
{{and again; and again; gathering
more momentum }}

HERE'S ONE MORE:
~ Whom do you envision growing old with?
and enjoy the thought
of walking on the beach
in flowing white robes,
and pray for it to happen,
counting the weeks
the tic of that Eternal Clock
ad meir v'esrim
AMV